How to Achieve Your Signature Style 

How to Achieve Your Signature Style 

If you have been following along (and if you haven’t I suggest you check out how Creating Your Signature Decor Style, Part 1, and The Importance of Defining Your Signature Style, Part 2) then you have read and followed some of the steps my two previous posts and are ready for Part 3.  In Part 1, we discuss how to identify what decor elements inspire you. In Part 2, we discuss why giving your style a name is so important, and how it can save you time and money, and now we are ready for Part 3, Achieving Your Signature Style.

How to Achieve Your Signature Style

Now it’s time to put everything we have talked about into practice—this is the fun part! But before you start putting on your shoes to rush out and go shopping, let’s pause for a minute: What did you discover about your signature style? Did anything about it surprise you? Did you take time to notice what elements or pieces in your home are your favorite? 

For myself, I have found that my favorite pieces are the collected ones—the pieces handed down from family and friends. It’s the art from arts festivals and crafts shows I’ve visited. It’s the unique items from crafts shows and yard sales, flea markets and antique stores that have all come together to create a style that I love, and that also feels like me. It has taken time and it will take more time to further curate my style. Along the way I’m sure my style will change, and as life evolves in our household (decorating is a tad different with a toddler!), certain decor elements will change also.

When we moved into our house six years ago, I desperately wanted our home to be cute, curated, and comfortable. It was none of these things for the first few years. Over the years it has slowly come to look like what I originally envisioned when we first laid eyes on it. It took time—I wanted to rush it, but you really can’t rush the collection of items that reflect your style if you just rush out to Home Goods (yes, I do love that store) or Pottery Barn. 

Not long after we moved into our home, my mother wanted to get rid of the piano they had. I had taken lessons while growing up, and really liked the five foot tall, slightly battered upright piano from the early 20th century. I begged her not to get rid of it and instead to let us have it. We were barely settled into our home when the piano movers were scheduled and the piano was delivered. Something really neat happened as soon as that piano arrived. My house started to feel like a home. There was something in my home that instantly felt like me, that had memories attached to it, and had a sense of heritage to it that is so important to me. I knew right away I wanted more items like this in my home. 

The other thing I learned along the way is that if I want my home to have unique things collected from craft shows, or vintage markets, then I have to go to vintage markets and crafts shows in order to stumble across these items. 

How Does this Look Actionably? 

The first thing to do is to go through your home and curate it. Pull out, take down, and gather everything you’re not absolutely in love with. Gather up all the items in vignettes that you feel aren’t quite working. Let your house rest. 

Myquillyn Smith, author of “The Nesting Place,” and “Cozy Minimalist Home,” talks about quieting your home. She goes really far with this, even taking out furniture that you aren’t using very often. Then you wait. Live in your home for a little while, and see what you miss. 

As you notice that you are starting to miss something, pull it back out and put it on display. What items are you holding onto that could go? Just because someone gave you something doesn’t mean you are obligated to keep it forever—especially if you don’t love it! 

If you come across things that you love but need something to make it work, make a list! Maybe you have a gorgeous pot but no plant; maybe you have a piece of art for which you need a frame—make a list. Then start keeping your eyes open for the right item to fill these gaps—remember, don’t rush! No one is going to judge you for taking a little longer to find the right piece that speaks to you just in order to fill a decor gap. 

Put Yourself Out There! 

When you get a sense of the items you are missing, maybe a large piece of art, or a comfortable chair, make an effort to visit places that might just have what you are looking for. If you like craft shows, go to craft shows! If you like vintage, go to flea markets and antique malls.

Above all, be patient! Just because you don’t stumble across the perfect thing doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist!

I hope this little series has been enlightening and given you actionable steps to clarify and curate your decorating style and to create a home you love! Remember, if you have found this post helpful, the kindest thing you can do is to share this post with someone you know—this helps me to be able to continue creating these posts for you and your friend will be touched that you thought of them! Thanks in advance!

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A Measure of Grace

A Measure of Grace

Jonah. He is one of those people in the Bible, you know? He’s not a David who, despite his failings, still manages to be called a man after God’s own heart. Nor is Jonah like Peter, who, again, had his shortcomings but was zealous for Jesus in just about everything he did. (Well, except for that incident with the crowing rooster… .) But Jonah is just Jonah. The man who was thrown overboard, swallowed by a whale, vomited up onto shore, who then went  to the city he was running away from, preached a sermon urging them to repent and got mad when the people repented. 

He’s kind of a pain. Sometimes I think God included the story of this man in the Bible just so we could know that we don’t have to be anything special for God to use us. He can use anyone—even if they are unwilling—God has His ways! Sitting in church the other week, I thought about Jonah and realized that it is not always about others. 

Jonah really didn’t want to go to this land of horrible people to preach to them (you wouldn’t want to either) so he ran away. He got caught and God called out Jonah’s disobedience in a spectacular way (the big fish swallowing Jonah!) and so Jonah went, but he really didn’t want to. These people were the Israelites’ biggest enemies so Jonah was more than a little upset when these people did a complete and quick 180 turn and corrected their ways. Jonah knew God was kind and compassionate and while Jonah wanted to see these people destroyed, he knew that if they repented God would spare them. 

 I always pictured this as Jonah being upset because God spared these people who kind of had it coming. But digging a little deeper, I wonder if it’s because Jonah saw that these people, who he considered to be beneath him, were quicker to turn from evil and listen to God than Jonah was in some ways. Did he feel that they were given more grace than he was? Is the story of Jonah less of a story of disobedience and more of a story about jealousy as to whom God sheds His mercy upon?  

Jonah was a prophet, who had been doing God’s work for, presumably, much of his life. He’s then given the task to convict these people of their sin. They repent and God shows them grace—without them having to spend three days and nights in the belly of a very, very, large fish! To Jonah, it probably seemed like these people had it pretty easy! Why should they get to repent and be forgiven just like that, when Jonah makes one very disobedient decision and ends up thrown overboard, thinking he’s going to die, in the middle of a storm. I think Jonah was mad because they were shown a different measure of grace than he felt he was. Have you ever been upset about God’s grace too? 

Have you ever been in the middle of a really tough season and looked around and seen everything going right for someone who seemingly hasn’t worked as hard as you have? Have you been mad that your life, despite you doing everything you know to be right, has had what seems like more than its fair share of ups and downs, while your non-believer neighbor seems to have one good thing after another fall into place for them?

Our lives are not equal. Some people have a harder time of it than others and only the Good Lord knows why that is. It’s easy to look at Jonah and think that he was really messed up—but most likely, we have all been a Jonah at some point in our life. 

The next time you are looking around at someone who seems to have life falling into place for them, I challenge you to remember that it’s not about us; it is about how God can use us and our stories for His Glory.

 

What We Gaze Upon

What We Gaze Upon

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable- if anything is excellent or praiseworthy- think about such things. 

Phillipians 4:8

 

“Well I did it now,” my future husband thought, as he climbed down off the mower and walked into the house to confess what he had done to his father. 

 

“Dad, I uh, hit the tree with the lawn mower….” 

 

“I see,” his father replied,”I’m glad you’re ok, but what in the world were you looking at??”

 

“I was looking at the tree, trying not to hit it!” 

 

Have you ever been there?? My husband had been trying not to hit the tree, but he was so focused on what he wasn’t supposed to be doing that he ended up doing it! 

 

What you gaze upon is what you will become.” 

 

We often think about the story of Peter, when we think about keeping our gaze fixed on Jesus. The disciples were out in a boat and a massive storm rolled up. They are frantically trying to keep from sinking, the fishermen among them probably throwing a comment or two about how useless retired tax collectors are in situations like that, then all of the sudden they see a ghost! Well, they realize it is Jesus pretty quickly and he calms the sea, and continues walking across the water. Peter, never one to miss out, asks to walk to Jesus and Jesus tells Peter to get out of the boat. Peter is amazed- never in all his years of being a fisherman has he seen anyone walk on water! He can’t believe that he’s walking on water too- like really can’t believe it! Once he realizes what he has done and that he could die, he instantly starts to sink! Peter started focusing on the wrong thing. 

 

In the old testament we have the story of Adam and Eve, their situation is a little different. They were told not to eat of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. We act like The Fall was a quick event; God created man, everyone rested, Adam and Eve finished naming all the animals, looked over, realized they still hadn’t sampled the fruit from that tree and walked over to test their will power.

I think it was a much more subtle process than that. I think Adam and Eve had been living in the garden for a while, and I’m willing to bet that there were children running around already too. They enjoyed perfect communion with God, and will each other.; I think this could be how the serpent “talked” to them. Not with words but almost a certain type of mental telepathy that people develop through being closely aligned and knowing each other well- like married couples who have been married for years! 

 

Then the serpent tempted them, and they started focusing not as much on their communion with God, but on how they mustn’t eat the fruit. Which made them more curious, and pretty soon, their focus was on the one thing they weren’t supposed to be doing. 

 

My young future husband hit the tree because he was so focused on what he was not supposed to do- hit the tree- that he stopped focusing on what he was supposed to be doing- focusing on the grass that needed to be cut! Have you had your own riding into the tree with the mower moments? Sometimes the key to not not doing the wrong things isn’t to think about not doing them- but to think about what we are supposed to be doing. I think that’s why Paul spells it all out for us in Philippians 4:8 where he writes, “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable- if anything is excellent or praiseworthy- think about such things.”  (NIV version) Focus on what you are supposed to be focusing on and I bet you’ll be shocked at how well everything else falls into place! 

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The Importance of Defining Your Signature Style – Part 2

The Importance of Defining Your Signature Style – Part 2

In the last Homemaking post I shared how to find your signature style, (see that post here) and this post we are talking about the importance of defining our signature style. Why does defining your signature style even matter?? Why should you go through these exercises?

The reason to take time to find what styles, colors, and textures speak to you is so that you can create a home that inspires you and makes you come alive.

By doing these things you can create a curated home that looks like you and your style.

As to why you should define your style it is simple; if you never put a some sort of label on your decor style (you can make up a style name- we will talk about that in a minute) then you never have a guide for what makes the cut to bring into your home and what doesn’t. If you don’t have any sort of guide then your home will fail to look cohesive and curated.

Naming Your Decor Style

If you went through Pinterest you probably saw a wide range of styles including: 

  • Farmhouse; shiplap, chippy furniture, galvanized metal
  • Classic; Timeless elements, sleek lines
  • Maximalist; lots and lots of color, patterns,and lots of stuff! 
  • Bohemian; earthy tones and textures, woven materials, plants!! 
  • Midcentury; 1950s-1960s inspired furniture, often shades of pea green, yellow, blue and red.
  • Modern; somewhat minimal, very streamlined look.
  • Industrial; exposed brick walls, metal, less upholstered materials. 
  • Grandmillenial; antique store meets grandma’s house, more of a feminine feel. Lots of florals.

Now a thoughtfully decorated home should be a mix of your favorite parts of these styles; for example: I like elements of Bohemian Style, but it’s not my most favorite look, however I love the life all the plants that Boho style is known for, gives to a home. So I draw some inspiration from this style when it comes to my plant life in my house. 

 

How Do You Decide?

That is why Part 1- Finding Your Signature Decor Style was so important! What are the elements of these styles that make you come alive!

 For me, my signature style favorite elements include: 

  • Classic elements; I always want my home to have a timeless look.
  • Vintage pieces 
  • Pops of color
  • Art collected from craft shows and arts festivals. 

These elements all come together in a style I have named; Artsy Vintage Classic.

I could have also called it a hint of grandmillenial vintage with a modern twist. Despite what I actually name the end result is that I have a guideline for what my style is, and what comes into my home. When a friend was getting rid of their mid century buffet (originally from the 1960s) I could look at it and know that this mid century piece would fit in with other vintage pieces I have and work in my home. When I am at home goods and see a very modern piece of art that I like, I can assess if it fits into my home, and whenI decide that while I like it, I don’t love it, and it is a little modern for my style, then it stays in the store and just I come home!

 

Now if you, or I, see a piece we absolutely love, that makes our heart flutter and our palms get sweaty, but isn’t quite like the rest of the items in our home should we buy it? Yes!! If you love it, really love it, then there will be a way to make it work in your home.

That is part of the beauty of bringing only pieces that you really love into your home; your signature look comes to light because you are creating it out of pieces you really love and themes will emerge.

By taking the time to go through these steps; identifying and naming your decor style you will create a curated home that will always possess a timeless feel!

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When the Laughter Starts to Fade

When the Laughter Starts to Fade

A cheerful heart is good medicine; but a broken spirit drieth up the bones.

Proverbs 17:22 ASV

I like to laugh; mostly at my own jokes, but I enjoy jokes from others,  funny situations, puns- I’m really not too picky! 

 

I consider myself to be someone who laughs pretty easily and frequently- but still over the years I have realized that I don’t laugh quite as much as I used to. There is that old saying, “We don’t stop laughing because we grow old, we grow old because we stop laughing.” 

 

Unfortunately, I think that tends to be true. I think back to growing up and getting together with friends several times a week- at least- during the summer. We were always cracking ourselves up- and still do when we get together! But life is busy; we have kids and adult responsibilities and the laughter starts to fade…

 

My little one  just turned one last month and as usually happens around this age my son has started to figure out how to walk! He mostly has it mastered now but for several weeks before it really clicked there were lots of little quick steps, followed by him falling, catching himself, and his little rear wiggle up in the air as he tried to stand up again! 

 

I would hold my son, face him towards my husband, and my son would take one tentative step, then another, then a few quick steps. As he took those few quick steps he would realize that he was walking- then he would giggle! 

 

He would laugh at the joy of trying something new. At this point I don’t think he knew entirely what he was doing that created the magical results of walking towards his father, but nonetheless he was delighted! 

 

How little it takes at this age for children to be delighted. For them to laugh and smile, at any of the many things we take for granted.

 

 Our dog rolls on her back, legs up in the air with a toy in her mouth, my son laughs. 

 

One of our cats decides to go racing by for no conceivable reason- my son laughs. 

 

How many little causes for joy and laughter do we overlook in a given day because we are too busy to pause for a moment and notice the little things of life? 

 

How often do we miss glorious little miracles going on in the world around us do we miss because we have our heads down, focused on our to-do list, busily rushing from one thing to the next? 

 

God created laughter. He created joy. I think we get so busy focusing on the God of judgment, the Jesus of power and miracles, that we forget that in human form Jesus was a man, one that people liked to be around! How many people with no sense of humor do you like to be around? 

 

My prayer for us as we start a new week is that we take time to pause, and enjoy the world around us. That we revel in the little miracles unfolding before us everyday. I pray we don’t’ take ourselves, or the crumbling world we live in so seriously that we don’t take time for the simple, little silly things in life that can bring us joy, if we take time to laugh.

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